Mirror
January 5, 2015
A British mum who abandoned her children to marry an Arab toyboy she met online has told how she was stranded penniless in Tunisia for two years after he dumped her.
Selina Hinkson, 48, left her London home to join 20-year-old shop worker Nizar Ben Mabrouk and converted to the Muslim faith after they struck up a relationship on Facebook.
The pair planned to leave Tunisia and return to the UK when Nizar passed a UK citizenship test.
But he failed his English language exam weeks after their marriage – and ruthlessly abandoned Selina during the chaotic days of the Arab Spring.
With no money to pay for a flight home and ties with her British family broken, the mother-of-two says she lived rough and survived by begging.
Selina was eventually deported and now lives in a homeless shelter in London, her life in ruins.
She said: “My story serves as a cautionary tale to other women who may be in a foreign age-gap relationship.
“It’s easy to get swept away in the moment. These men are so good at wooing you and making you feel like the only woman on earth.
“In reality, they’re using you as a meal ticket to get to the UK.
“As the old saying goes, if it seems too good to be true, it usually is.
“My kids were too young at the time to understand why their mum wasn’t there for them. Guilt and a sense of loss eat me up every day.”
Selina first made contact with Nizar via Facebook in 2010.
She was 44, more than twice his age, and had two children, Natasha, then 12 , and Tyrone, then 13.
Selina recalled: “At first I just thought it was a bit of fun. The messages were cute and endearing, not pushy or sleazy. His English wasn’t very good so we’d just chat about what we were up to.
“I’d tell him about my job as an NHS nurse and what the kids had been doing. He would tell me about his two jobs, running a boutique fashion store and an internet café.”
Selina had been divorced three times after marriages to British men failed – most recently in 2009. Now she was hopeful that Nizar was the real thing.
Her sister Wendy, 47, warned her about him and questioned his intentions. But Selina insists that she saw no signs he was using her.
She said: “He never asked for a penny from me. He started to send gifts, like flowers and sometimes clothes from his shop. I never suspected anything.”
As Selina’s feelings for Nizar grew, they began chatting regularly by phone and he revealed he would like to marry a British woman.
“He would propose nearly every time we spoke on the phone,” she said.