Ivory Coast: Frontholes Whine About Bill That Would Legalize Polygamy

Polygamy used to actually be a necessity, because there were always more women than men, because men actually fight wars and do difficult jobs and die.

It was an abuse of women to not have polygamy, because it meant some women wouldn’t have husbands. Also, a man having multiple wives is an abuse of men.

In countries where there are more women than men in current year, some men have a “side piece,” because that is just going to happen.

France 24:

A proposed bill at the Ivorian parliament that would legalise polygamy – but only for men – has prompted strong reactions from women’s rights advocates, which have dubbed it a step back in the fight for equality. Polygamy is prohibited in many parts of the world but remains widespread in West African countries.

“We can’t legalise polygamy to satisfy a man’s libido,” legal expert Désirée Okobé says bluntly. Okobé is based in Abidjan and is one of the women who have spoken out against MP Yacouba Sangaré’s bill to legalise polygamy in the West African country.

“A man chooses to have more than one wife for personal, egotistical reasons. Opening this door would end up creating an imbalance in our society,” Okobé says in a telephone interview.

According to her and several women’s rights activists in the country, legalising polygamy would be a setback for Ivorian women who still face systemic inequalities and discrimination.

The UN Commission on Human Rights considers the practice discriminatory against women and has called for its eradication.

Polygamy is common in Subsaharan AfricaAlthough polygamy has declined globally in the last decade it remains common in West Africa.

It is most widely practiced in sub-Saharan Africa – by 11% of the population on average, according to a 2019 survey conducted by the Pew Research Center. The rate of polygamous unions in Ivory Coast is slightly higher at 12%.

Sangaré has based his project on these stats, arguing for polygamy to become a legal option since the 1964 law that only recognises monogamy has proven ineffective, he says.

“Across regions and regardless of religious background, polygamy is common in Ivory Coast. Men have multiple wives and communities accept that. So exclusive monogamy doesn’t fit with our realities, our customs. We can’t just copy-paste legislation that was put in place in Western countries. We have to give people the option,” he argues.

Research has shown that prior to the arrival of colonists and Christianity in parts of Africa, polygyny – which allowed men to take more than one spouse – existed under family law. It helped avoid divorces due to infertility and was a response to an imbalance in the ratio of women and men.

Sangaré claims that the intention behind the bill is designed to protect women who have no legal rights under “traditional” marriages. A June 2019 law stipulates that “no one may enter into a new marriage before the first one is dissolved” and that only state officials have the authority to legalise a union. The law thus invalidated traditional marriages, for which a contract is often concluded by way of a dowry. If the relationship ends, women have no right to claim compensation from their partner.

“Legislation is needed to protect women. If their partner dies, they are left in this legal vacuum,” Sangaré says. He went on to argue that monogamy “incentivizes” divorce, since men who want multiple partners are more likely to leave their wives and families if polygamy is not allowed.

Okobée agrees that more legislation is needed to protect women but she rejects the idea that this bill was drafted with women’s interests in mind.

“It’s an excuse to justify the unjustifiable. This is not for women. This is all about men getting their way,” she says.

Women’s rights organisations in Ivory Coast say they will fight the bill and do everything they can to prevent it from becoming part of the law. Former solidarity and women’s rights minister Constance Yai has been one of the most vocal critics of Sangare’s plan.

Double standard?“There is no such thing as polygamy in Ivory Coast. There are men who have several mistresses,” she said in a press conference organised by the Ivorian League of Women’s Rights.

She stressed that the document is in contradiction with the 2016 constitution, which states that “all Ivorians are born and remain free and equal in law; no one can be privileged or discriminated against because of their race, ethnicity, clan, tribe or gender”.

The UN Commission on Human Rights and the Committee on the Elimination of Discrimination against Women consider that polygamous marriages discriminate against women and have recommended their prohibition.

In practice, women in polygamous unions have limited rights and tend to act more submissively than women in monogamous unions, Okobé says.

“Our society makes women feel that they have to be in a home with a husband to have status. But we need to be telling women that they can develop on their own: They need to be empowered at all levels. How does sharing a husband with other women and the threat of a new one coming along empower women? It doesn’t. It’s degrading.”

Women’s rights activists have pointed out a double standard, as the bill proposes to legalise polygyny only and not polyandry.

Because polyandry is literally retarded.

A man can impregnate multiple women, a woman can’t be impregnated by multiple men.

Also, the kind of “people” who would be involved in polyandry are not people who should have any rights at all.

Literally never ends well.

”Male polygamy is not the only form of union possible. But would we be capable of assuming female polygamy as well, to abide by the principle of equal rights for women and men?” asked Constance Yai during a July 11 press conference, prompting applause from the event’s organisers.

Feminism ‘imported from the West’

But her stance has received mixed reactions online from Ivorians, who don’t all subscribe to the idea of perfect equality between men and women.

“Feminism is imported from the West. We have our own set of [cultural] values. If a man can have two or three wives, it doesn’t necessarily mean that a woman should have the same right. It wouldn’t work. It would create chaos,” says Issa during a heated debate with his friends at a bar in Abidjan.

In Okobé’s opinion, systemic patriarchy is at the root of the rejection of feminism. “People’s mindset needs to change. This ‘boys will be boys’ trope is what has enabled men to keep the old order in place and to keep suppressing women. Instead of saying that it’s in a man’s nature to hunt and have multiple partners, let’s educate boys – but also girls and women, so they understand why gender equality is so important.”

There is polygamy in the Bible, but it is also generally an accepted Christian teaching that there should only be one man and one woman. The Mormons are the biggest protestant sect to ever bring back polygamy, but others have done it.

I don’t think there should be polygamy in an ideal society. If there are more women than men, then ugly women who don’t have a pleasant enough personality to make up for their ugliness should be forced to be nuns.

It’s just absurd that women are so retarded they don’t understand that polygamy is literally a system designed to make sure THEY are taken care of. In a society with more women than men, men can just cheat on their wives and not have any obligations to the side piece. Polygamy ensures that if a man is having sex with a woman, he has financial obligations to her. That is the literal purpose of polygamy – to ensure that all women in a society are materially supported.

Polygamy doesn’t benefit men in any way, other than having more sons. I hate to break it to you kids, but sex with a woman is only interesting the first time. Maybe the second or third time, if she’s some kind of stunning beauty who is also really friendly (doesn’t actually exist). Sex with the same woman is always a chore; the only excitement in sex is with multiple new partners, and even that gets exhausting and boring.

Multiple wives is only a fantasy of 12-year-old boys. Anyone who’s had experience does not fantasize about this. Polygamy is an institution designed to keep stupid, ugly women from starving to death.

(It actually means that lower class men have to marry the ugliest and least pleasant women, which is a good reason to support monogamy. If men are allowed to have multiple wives, the richest men will get more than one pretty/sweet girl. So the monogamy/polygamy question is really: would you rather force the poorest men to marry the ugliest women, or force the ugliest women to become nuns?)

These people aren’t perfect, but they still look healthier and more normal than the average American family