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It’s men’s fault!
All the good ones disappeared!
For the first time in all of human history, there is no man good enough for an average woman!
From “egg showers” to viral TikTok videos of 20-somethings sharing their egg-freezing journeys, oocyte cryopreservation is having its big moment. The number of females in Canada seeking to preserve their eggs for non-medical purposes is on the uptick, with 1,200 egg-freezing cycles reported in 2021, compared to a mere 94 in 2013.
The numbers doubled between 2020 and 2021 alone, an unexpected pandemic surge. With social and dating lives upended, “a lot of people feel they lost three years of their reproductive life,” said Dr. Sony Sierra, president of the Canadian Fertility and Andrology Society.
In Canada, the average age for first-time mothers is now 31.4. “Society is sort of telling us, dictating, especially to women, what they should do — get your education, travel, get a job, buy your house, meet a partner, and follow that path. But of course, our reproductive anatomy hasn’t caught up,” said Carolynn Dubé, executive director of the patient group, Fertility Matters Canada.
Egg freezing can alleviate pressure, Dubé adds, “that sort of societal pressure, even the pressure a woman feels for herself on her future family-building plans. This is something they can do in their early to mid-20s, even their early 30s.”
Apple and Facebook were among the first to pick up the costs of egg freezing for female staff, and other major tech companies and big banks followed suit, though corporate Canada has been less enthusiastic than corporate America to embrace employer-paid egg preservation. Still, Canadian fertility clinics are hosting virtual webinars for the curious on “all things egg freezing,” heartening fertility specialists and patient advocates who say it’s important to make young women, or young people with ovaries, aware of age-related changes to the quantity and quality of their eggs.
While it’s often pitched as a fertility insurance policy or back-up plan for when women are ready to conceive, egg freezing is expensive. There’s no guarantee of a pregnancy or live birth in the end and, rather than bolstering a woman’s reproductive freedom, a recent study found egg-freezing workplace perks can seem more pressuring than progressive, an implicit nudge that women should make work, and not babies, their central focus.
Others argue the primary reason women are electing to place their eggs in deep freeze is a lack of worthy and stable reproductive partners.
Yeah, okay.
Freeze your eggs and try having a baby at 38 when you’ve realized that you’re going to have to settle for a man who is not really good enough but is the only thing available for you.
Hope the baby doesn’t have autism and Down syndrome.
Salute.